Why is it some people just can't accept people for who they are? I have many friends from many walks of life. And believe me it is better that some of my friends will never meet others. I always considered myself to be a high strung New York Bitch, and there was a time in my life when I was very proud and happy with that. I didn't think I needed anyone. Then Joe and I moved to Florida. I learned I didn't like the person I was. I judged everyone for everything, from the car they drove and the house they lived in, to the level of their education and the job they held.
Then I met Lorrie, which btw the first time we met we couldn't stand each other. You see Lorrie is 10 years older then I am and she had already had all of her children. I didn't have any yet, so in her eyes I was this skinny bitch with perky boobies....lol yes that is what she told me about 3 months later. And I thought she was just an arrogant bitch. Well that bitch is my very best friend in the world and to this day we will always be there for each other.
See, we had moved to a trailer park to save money so we could buy a house. It was an old run down trailer BUT it was ours. Lorrie lived next door. I dont even remember how we became friends....it just feels like we always were. Lorrie was with me when Billy and Nick were born. She saved me when Billy was so colicky I was ready to snap. When I went to have my stitches removed from my lumpectomy Lorrie was with me........which means she was the first one to know I had breast cancer and she held me as I sobbed like a baby. She was with me through some of my chemo treatments and when my hair started falling out. She was there when I got my first tattoo.
I was with her many times when she needed a place to get away from her abusive husband.
Anyway Lorrie taught me what a real friend is and how a real friend would never judge you.
People are going to be friends with others that they feel a connection with. I made connections with all of you and I will not choose any of you over the other 2......
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I'm so sorry that you have been drug into a situation that really never involved you. I don't believe it involved me either, but I was in the middle with ya. Unfortunately I allowed it to consumer me and almost destroy some friendships.
ReplyDeleteRemember when I emailed you with all these thoughts and feelings? You gave me some wonderful advice and I will forever be greatful. There is no reason that you cannot be friends with everyone you want to be whether or not they all get along. Just because some cannot get along doesn't mean that YOU should have to end friendships. One person should not dictate your circle of friends based on their opinions of who is worthy of you.
I learned to look deep inside and see what it is that I want and WHO I want to be in my life. People who encourage and inspire me. People who I know feel the same way about me. People who were there for me even when I didn't deserve to have a friend in my life. You deserve to have those kind of friends as well.
Love you (((HUGS)))
OH MY..this is alarming. You call this person a friend? Lorrie set a good example of what friends are. Friends do not break up friendships. Friends share things. Thoughts, laughter, pain and sorrow, purses, and secrets. I trust the judgment of my friends and if they are friends with someone I do not care for, I leave that topic alone. Make your feelings known to this friend Jenny and maybe she will stop causing you this undue conflict... ((((BIG HUGS))))
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